I've been asked many times for tips on kids clothes and how to keep them from taking over. We could always be better, but for the most part, we have things figured out. As our kids get older, things change, so you might find some of these tips better for kids under 5.
The key is figuring out what works in your home and for your family. Once you do that, you'll have a system and the clothes will be more manageable.
ABOUT US:
Maybe you want a little bit of a background before I start.
Our children are 7, 5, 4, 2, and 9 months. Our home is roughly 2200 sq ft and we have four bedrooms: ours, a small office/nursery, and two large kid bedrooms. Our older daughter is in one room, baby is near us, three boys share a room. The pictures in this post are from our old home, when we also had three kids sharing a room.
This is what works for us. It might not work for you, it might not work for us in another year or five. But I’m willing to change things up and amend what we do to best fit our family.
8 TIPS HOW TO KEEP KIDS CLOTHES FROM TAKING OVER:
- Have less.
- Buy (mostly) secondhand.
- Don't save everything.
- Keep it simple, use like items.
- Don't fold
- Do you like it?
- Buy Ahead.
- Dealing With Emotional Reasons
Here's a little bit more on each of these. If you'd like to see a recent periscope I did on the first four tips, you can watch here: http://whitehouseblackshutters.com/periscope
1.) Have less.
Honestly, I have this piece of advice for any area of your home that feels unmanageable. Having less helps in more ways than you think. You have less to take care of. You have less to wash. Less to put away. You have less to pile up. Less to get rid of when it gets to be too small.
Are your drawers too stuffed? Do you feel like you don't have enough everyday storage space for clothing? Do you feel like your child has too many clothes? More clothes than he can wear?
If you answered yes to any of these, you would benefit from weeding a few things out. Ask a friend or family member if they can use items, but if not, donate. If it is in bad shape, ask your thrift shop if they recycle items (Goodwill and most Salvation Army locations DO), put it in a labeled "recycling."
2.) Buy secondhand (mostly).
Every family is different and if buying new items bring you joy, go for it! If things are somewhat tight, you go through clothes quickly, or you have kids who are rough on clothes, try it out. You do have to be careful, it is much easier to have MORE secondhand clothing, which leads to things being less manageable.
I look for brand name and good condition clothing. You'll be spending a fraction of the amount you would on even sale items. I shop mostly garage sales, facebook selling sites, thrift stores, and 5-10% things from a store. I try to avoid "sales" or clearance racks because many times, the thing ends up being more than I would like to spend!
When I buy clothing secondhand for babies and toddlers from a garage sale, I look for items for $1 and lower, sets $2 and lower. Since some items will see multiple kids, I'll "splurge" on items in really good condition or with a more durable brand name. If I am buying a LARGE amount, I will ask the seller, "I might be interested in buying a large amount of items. If I do, would you consider a lower price?" It's a win-win situation, the seller gets rid of more clothing and makes more money, the buyer buys more items. For more garage sale tips, read this post.
Another bonus to secondhand? If you spend $1 on something, donating too-small clothes is easier.
3.) Don't Save Everything!
If you have children close together, it is smart to save clothing. But not everything.
First, the obvious. Some items get worn or dirty, bag those up for a donation center and mark "recycling." Maybe some clothing items you didn't quite love and they got shoved to the back of the drawer. Or maybe YOU thought they were cute, but your child never wanted to wear them. Sell them or donate and move on.
You will find some new items for each kid. If you save everything, you are going to be overwhelmed when you bring it out of storage. Keep it simple and it will help you down the line.
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4.) Keep it simple, use like items.
My exception to the secondhand rule are underwear, tshirts, and socks. For these items, keep it simple.
Buy multiple packs of socks where every sock in the whole pack matches. When one gets gross, you can toss one sock without losing the pair. Or you can buy one pack and add to what you have. Girls socks can be trickier. My kids like fun socks, so we have those too. 🙂
For t-shirts, I stick to Hanes. For underwear, I let them pick.
For kids close in age (for instance, my 4 and 2.5 year old), all their socks, tshirts, and underwear are the same size and in the same drawer. Maybe that is weird but it works for us.
5.) Don't fold.
My older kids are starting to want to fold their clothes, which is fine. For the younger kids, we set it nicely in the drawer.
We have a large girl bedroom and a large boy bedroom in our house. Each room has a laundry basket and my kids will do their laundry once a week (sometimes with help from me). When we sort their laundry out, we just bring the basket up to their room and sort into piles for each person.
Each kid has an undergarment drawer, sock drawer, pj drawer and they all go in there. Look for beds with large drawers underneath, those help! I sort out off-season clothes into easy to reach bins in the closet in case we need them AND to avoid shorts wearing in the winter. We also have a uniform drawer for school which has helped A TON.
6.) Does it make you happy?
If you feel like your kids have too much clothing, go through it with this mindset:
Do you like how it looks or how it fits on them? If it's dirty or stained or just ends up in the back of the drawer, you don't need it. If a certain style of pants falls down, you don't need it. If grandma gave you something, use it when you see her or let it bless someone.
Your child doesn't like it? I know you're the parent, but let them pick and choose your battles. Would you like someone telling you no more comfy yoga leggings? If they don't like jeans, keep 1-2 pairs and switch to leggings. If your boys only want sweatpants or athletic shorts, compromise! Want to be just like dad? More dress shirts.
Ask them questions when sorting laundry, ask them if they want it, take them shopping (or online shopping) with you. Give them some ownership and I promise, I PROMISE, they will be more responsible. You know, help you with laundry, putting it away... the good things!
Do you just feel like you have way too much? Weed out multiples or save them in a bin for when things get trashed and you need more shirts.
7.) Buy Ahead
Yep that's right. I'm telling you to re-think your clothing storage.
Instead of saving clothes that don't fit, save clothing that will fit.
This can mean hand-me-downs in good condition! But don't go too crazy, try to only go a year in advance. For a baby, this might mean a bin for 0-6, 6-12, 12 months, 18 months, 2T, because they all grow so differently. For older kids, you'll only need 1-2 sizes ahead. Keep in mind what your kid can use, don't buy 50 shirts, 3 pairs of winter boots, or 5 pairs of plaid shorts. Only get things in like new condition.
I do this with shoes as well, each kid has a bin of shoes that will fit them in the future. This makes it easier with my boys, when a pair doesn't fit and is still good, it goes into the next kid's shoe bin.
8.) Dealing with Emotional Reasons
Like I said in my post about decluttering your own clothes, clothes can be tricky. Kids clothes can be even trickier.
I think the most common reason all parents feel is getting emotional over how fast time has gone. Any time I go through kids clothes to go up to the next size, I feel a little twinge of something. Sometimes I try to deny it and instead, put off sorting out the clothes that don't fit. I didn't understand it when my kids were tiny and I was excited for their next stages. But as time moves faster, I get it.
Some other reasons: if you suffered a loss through miscarriage, are having a hard time trying to conceive, wanted more children, or had different ideas of what your family would look like. If this is the case, I'm so sorry and I wish I could hug you through the screen.
It is okay to feel emotional. For me, it helped to remember that they're threads, buttons, and cloth. They don't have feelings and they're not here to make you feel bad.
If seeing them makes you feel bad, you have my permission to let it leave and stop making you unhappy.
If seeing them causes you dread at the thought of all the time to go through it, donate it in one swift pickup. Don't look twice, don't go through it, just pick up those bins, call up a pickup service, and let them be on their way.
Another thing that WILL help, create a story around the clothing. Picture a family who just lost a job and whose kid had a growth spurt. Your clothing would bless them more than you know. The little dress you bought will be in that baby's first birthday photos and have memories for years to come. Try to redirect your good, bad, sad memories associated with the clothing and think of the new memories they will have for someone else.
And then let them go.
Do you have any tips I missed or ideas you'd like to add? Leave them in the comments below!
Lisa
What a awesome article! Thank you for sharing this!
Mary
Great ideas! Thanks so much for sharing! It makes me want to purge this second. 😉
Ann Marie Heasley
Thank you! Seeing your comment makes me want to do the same. 🙂
Have a great day!
Tammy Erickson
I have 3 left at home (0f 8). My husband passed away 3 years ago. 18 year old is on the autistic spectrum, 17 year old is a meth baby (developmentally aged 7), 10 year old was born tox positive to cocaine and marijuana (They are adopted, so do not judge me!). The 17 and 10 year old have anxiety about getting rid of things. I usually purge when they are gone. BUT I have inherited 4 grandchildren, 10, 8, almost 7 and 2. They have anxiety about getting rid of anything as well. This post is SO helpful to me. I wish I could wave a wand and have you here to help me! I am going to do the suggestions next week on Spring break. I suspect that if hurrying to get to a fun activity could spur them into a 'giving' attitude! Wish me luck!
Coco
I am pretty sure you are a saint!!! Good luck.
The Tiny Homestead
I love that you pointed out that some charities take worn out clothes donations for recycling! I only recently heard of this and it helps letting go so much. If it's worn out or stained, I don't have to feel bad about tossing it.
Kristen
I have emotional attachments to so many of my kids' sweet little outfits. I have a dear friend whose kids are typically a size smaller than mine, so I have found that passing the clothes on to them helps me not feel so emotional because I know I'll see the outfits again on another cutie. I guess it's kinda like the story you suggest creating except I know the people I'm helping out -- and turns out they help me out, too! (We also get hand-me-downs from friends which make the clothes that much more fun for my kids to wear knowing that their buddy used to wear it, too!)
Annaleah
Having less is so huge! It's actually amazing how little they need! My five kids share one dresser, each with one drawer for clothes, so they each have 4-5 pairs of pants, 5-7 shirts, and a couple pairs of pajamas. That is plenty! And I don't totally understand how less clothes equals less laundry, either, I just know that it does! :). Honestly, having everyone's clothes in one place has made a big difference for us, as well, because even if there are clothes on the floor, it's only in one place and is easily taken care of, rather than it seeming like there are clothes all over the house.
Michelle
Something that's been important for us is getting kid-friendly with the storage. Our 4 YO wasn't hanging up coats and such, and they were piling up everywhere: the couch, the floor, backs of chairs...so I invested in a new set of coat hooks. It also let me see just how many coats the kid has!
Ann Marie Heasley
Ahh, I will try this! I think we need a row of kid height hooks in our laundry room. Cause right now we have a giant puddle of coats under the hooks. 🙂
Torry
We are currently without a washing machine. I have been going to the Laundromat every other week. I do much less laundry than I did when I had a washer in my house. Believe me, I'm rethinking even buying another machine... except the first time someone is sick, I know I will want to do that laundry immediately!
Ann Marie Heasley
Wow, I never would have thought of that! Hmm, might have to unplug for a little bit. 🙂
Torry
Or just walk away from laundry duty for a bit. I think that I was doing lads that weren't full. I do know that I will never again do laundry at home after a vacation!
Carrie
Great post! And a timely post since going through the kids clothes is on my "to-do-soon" list. I have 3 boys and we do a lot of "handing down". As one brother outgrows something, it goes into the bin for the next-in-line brother (the bins are color-coded for each one.) I do still think that I save too much. I will keep your tips in mind, especially numbers 6 and 8 as I go through everything this time. Asking myself those questions and letting go of emotional attachment should help. Thank you for your suggestions!
Ann Marie Heasley
You are welcome, Carrie! And thanks for sharing your tips. I have bins similar to yours, but not color coded! I will have to try that with the labels. 🙂
Amy Dearborn
There's an awesome app called, Kidizen, where you set up an online shop to sell kids clothes, toys, accessories. It's awesome and easy to set up. I've done well at selling my kids' clothes and bought some great, new to us pieces, too.
Ann Marie Heasley
Thanks for the tip! I have saved a few name brand things & splurges in good condition to sell. The only problem is actually getting to it. I will download and try it out!
Louise Johnson
How does having fewer clothes make less to wash and less to fold? We still wear the same amount of clothing. The same amount of clothing still gets dirty.
Ann Marie Heasley
You're right and I wondered that too. I do think with having less, we have less clothing changes and less non-worn clothing that gets "put away" in the laundry pile. Or if we had three spring jackets, instead of washing three, I'm just washing one that gets worn all the time.
Does that make sense? Or maybe I'm just fooling myself into thinking less is better? 🙂
Parsley
Less clothing means less laundry can get stuck in any particular part of the laundry process, which means I can now easily keep up with the steady flow of dirty clothes that our growing family makes. I had to try a season with significantly fewer pieces per individual to really see the benefits for myself.
Leah
My 6 year old will change her clothes constantly on weekends. less clothes means less opportunities for her to change her clothes so less wash to do!
Coco Lucas
We do most of these things and let me say with 5 kids I am not nearly as stressed as I was with 2 kids. We have very minimal clothing and it takes me 3 to 4 loads to get every thing washed for all of us. We also only have 2 towels per person, color coded of course and that helps me find the culprit of who left their towel on the floor.
Ann Marie Heasley
Coco, that is great to hear! It sounds like you have the clothes pared down a bit more than us, which is where I'd like to be. Any laundry tips to share?
Also, do you do different color towels? Or labels or something on them? I'd really like to try your system out!
Parsley
We finally got two towels for each family member, each person with their own color. Revolutionary as far as laundry! Thanks for the great idea!
Parsley
What a great post! "Have less" is my favorite. My mother kept saying, "fewer clothes, less laundry". It took me a while to realize how smart she(that) was. Now when I'm behind on the laundry, I'm far less behind than I used to be, because it can't pile up as high when there isn't as much.
I also purchase many items secondhand, we get quality clothing for short money that I don't fret about when the inevitable dirt, grass, avocado, and berry stains happen. (Dawn blue dish liquid, the best stain remover I've used.)
Do you move the clothes along as soon as you cull them, or do you save them up somewhere until you've got a big pile? I keep amassing a bunch of outgrown clothing in a box in a closet, and then sorting them a second time for what to keep, what to give/throw away. What good ideas do you have about the ongoing nature of weeding out clothing from drawers and closets?
Ann Marie Heasley
You are so right, I didn't even mention how stains aren't a factor because it is easy to move clothing on!
You have so many good questions and I feel like I have more to say than I can type here. I'm going to share what we do in a periscope broadcast today (I'm @whbsblog in case you want to watch live). If you can't make it, no worries, I'm going to upload the video of the broadcast into a new post and can let you know when it's up. Might take me a little time, but I want to talk about it now before I forget! Plus I want to see what other people suggest in the broadcast before I take on our clothing storage this week.
Thank you for your help!